They don't tell you that it takes months to heal - to not cry at every mention of fathers or mothers.
They don't tell you that you feel emotionally raw.
They don't say that there will be constant reminders - others having similar diseases or surgeries and you don't want to say a word about it because the outcome wasn't good.
They don't say that you will finally begin to feel normal again and then a birthday brings it all back.
But then, do we really want to know?